From a very young age my parents always taught me that our values are the most important representation of our family. They show the successful upbringing of a child. My grandparents laid the foundation of these values for me. They were the 4 pillars of our family who gave 100% to their families. I always wanted to have a tattoo that is highly significant in my life and what can be better than the four words I use to describe the roots of my family.
Honesty – Our first pillar is a word that I use to describe my grandfather on dad’s side. He was the most honest man in my life. In his line of work he often had to deal with corrupt people but he never even once feared them or worried about the consequences of opposing them. Because of his nature he and his family suffered countless set backs financially in his lifetime but he refused to support anything but the truth, anything but the hard work, anything but fairness, and anything but his moral values. I knew the path will be difficult but I chose to follow my grandpa’s footsteps. Not gonna lie, my heart wavers sometimes from following this path when I look at all the bad ways of the world but then I think about my grandpa and cannot bring myself to be the same as others. I always thank him for keeping me on the right track.
Talent – Our second pillar represents my granny on my dad’s side. She is the most fun of them all. She is like a magician. There is nothing that she can’t do. She loves singing, dancing, cooking, sewing, drawing, making yummy sweets, and of course troubling everyone. She can be super duper dramatic at times but everyone loves her for her funny and innocent nature. I think its her genes passed along to all of us, thanks to which we all have been blessed with one if not many of those talents. She has always taught me to live to the fullest. She will enjoy herself no matter where she is and no matter how hard the time might be. She taught me that life is too short and there is no time to regret. She taught me if you love to do something then do it and do it with confidence. Don’t settle for mediocrity, if you have talent then pursue it but give it your 200%.
Selflessness – Third would be my grandmother on my mom’s side. She was the most selfless women I have met in my life. She was there to support my gramps through thick and thin. She never thought about anything except needs of her family. She always put them first over herself. No matter how hard the life was for her, she was always smiling. She taught me the importance of smiling. A tip for you, next time you are in a train or a bus or any other public transport, try smiling at a stranger. Trust me a smile is the most contagious thing and it gives a very internal satisfaction that is hard to explain. I usually feel all shy if someone smile back at me but I do it anyway. Who knows may be it will make someones day. 🙂
Determination – Last but the most important pillar of my family, my gramps from mum’s side. He had a really rough childhood. His parents passed away at a very young age and his aunts and uncles didn’t want him to study. He studied secretly through out his middle school and high school because he loved studying. He earned on the side to support his education because there was no help or support from his then family. Once he was married, he chose to have a huge family with lots of girls and he never treated them any different from the boys in the family. He was determined to provide, all of his children, the best of the education even though he didn’t have enough money to buy new clothes for next 5-6 years. Whatever he had he spent it on his kids. Even when they were far away with their own families, he never missed a weekend to call all of his children and their kids. When I say all I mean ALL. I can still remember him calling me after each of my important exams, my first interview, my birthday, my first day at work. He never missed a single date, not for me and not for any of my cousins, or my aunts and uncles. I guess that’s why my mum calls me everyday no matter how annoyed I get. It’s all your fault gramps. -__- Anyways I call him the glue of our family because without him we would have probably all gone separate ways.
These four words might not carry as much weight for anyone else but the amount of pride they carry for me is not measurable. I am thankful to my four pillars for the luxurious life I have now. Thanks to their sacrifices, love, and devotion to their families, I am where I am in life and I am who I am as a person. I hope they are all watching over me and guide me to the right path in the future as well. I hope I can be as honest, talented, selfless, and strong willed as they were. Ok my heart is hurting now.. I need to go otherwise I will start crying.
The roots of education are bitter but the fruit is sweet – Aristotle
Until next time..